March 2026 - Welcome to Women Are Healing, a sanctuary for your regeneration and empowerment.

As I’m writing these lines, I’ve just ended my participation and contribution to yet another family constellations day event in Bucharest (this time, in the online format). I’ve read about this spiritual and energetic technique many years ago, then the first books of Bert Hellinger (and many other authors on the topic) reached me. Like a lot of you, I was first in front of the TV line for Another Self.

Until one of my astro teachers, Barbara Bacauanu announced me and my astro classmates she was launching family constellations events in Bucharest.

I remember that day with accuracy in mind and heart, April 12th 2025. It feels like it was yesterday. My brother had just experienced a stroke and during the same week, I broke a bone in my left foot. For who knows the energetic medicine and intelligence of the body, I took on some of his burden and filtered his coming back to health through my body also. The left part of the body is linked to the right side of the brain and the emotions we inherit or create, thus being the gateway to the past and most of all, to releasing the past. I arrived with a broken leg to the event, and Barbara gave us the chance to extract a note with or without a number. We were supposed to work on 5 constellations that day. I extracted NO 1! As she told me later, she put the intention for the most urgent constellations to be chosen that day. And our family, me, my brother and a lot of the energies that were surrounding us screamed for attention. I KNEW IT, I felt it in all of my body that I was supposed to be there, broken bone and all, to work on behalf of my family and the pain that was too big and strong not to be heard or seen. And it was seen and it was released. As it should be.

12 months later, I’ve participated to 8 day family constellations events (in real life and online) and worked on behalf of me and my family, but also for my friends, for people I didn’t know and for the bigger field. The energy shift is extremely visible and the people I’ve recommended to join us are saying the same.

Whoever knows me closely, knows that I have little patience with spiritual by-passing mambo jumbo. I have seen too much and I’ve been disappointed many a times. A technique is either good or not for me and I see it very fast. Simplicity is key, don’t wait for ages to see if something is working for you and understand that everything you need and God dwells within you, as you.

A bit about family constellations

Family Constellations (also called systemic or family/systemic constellation therapy) is an experiential, usually group-based method that aims to surface hidden patterns in a person’s family or social system by arranging “representatives” in space and tracking what participants report feeling or sensing in those roles. It emerged in early-1990s Germany through the work of founder Bert Hellinger, drawing on elements of family systems approaches, psychodrama-like enactment, and a distinct “phenomenological” stance that emphasises attending to what unfolds in the room rather than analysing a client’s history in a conventional talk-therapy way. In research literature, Family Constellations is generally dated to early 1990s Germany, with later diffusion into multiple applied domains (family, health, organisations, conflict transformation).

I don’t know if you will ever find accurate research on the efficiency of this method. Because it works with the cuantic field. And because those funding research are not the right people to fund family constellations.

Over time, “constellations” diversified:

Organisational and structural constellations became popular in coaching and organisational development.
Transnational spread is documented ethnographically. For example, an ethnographic paper analysing workshops in Beijing and Oaxaca City argues the method functions as both a “technology of the self” and a “technology of the social,” reworking boundaries of self/other and moral narratives in context-specific ways.
In Mexico, anthropological work details how constellations blend imported therapeutic idioms with local cultural and spiritual frames.

How a session works and the core principles

me and Barbara Bacauanu, November 2025, **working** on my feminine lineage

In its classic workshop format, one participant (“the client”) brings a presenting issue. The facilitator invites group members to act as representatives for family members (or sometimes for abstract elements like “my anxiety,” “the symptom,” or “work”). Representatives are positioned in physical space. The facilitator then tracks the field reports—sensations, emotions, impulses to move—while making minimal interpretive claims in conventional psychological language.

The method is often taught through a small set of “orders” or guiding principles—frequently summarised as:

Belonging: everyone in the family system has a place; exclusions are said to reverberate.
Order/hierarchy: attention to generations and roles (e.g., parents before children), sometimes described as restoring dignity to what came first.
Balance of giving and taking: relational systems are thought to destabilise when reciprocity is severely disrupted.

In many trainings, the hallmark phenomenon is “representative” (or “surrogate”) perception: representatives claim to experience feelings or bodily states that correspond to the person/element they represent, despite not knowing them. Practitioner materials describe this as a tool for accessing system information.

The method is not standardised: “Family Constellations” can mean everything from a highly structured, consent-driven group process run by licensed clinicians to loosely run enactments in the personal-development marketplace. Second, the very features many people find powerful—group intensity, embodiment, symbolic role-play, authoritative ritual—are also the features that create risk when boundaries and aftercare are weak.

Here are my top recommendations for you to follow if you want to heal with family constellations and you are trying to find a good community or facilitator:

First of all, set a couple of intentions more clearly. Write down in a journal why you want to open yourself to family constellations. A clear intention is extremely important if not CORE important to finding the right facilitator for you and the right field energy.
Research a bit and make a list of facilitators. Try different approaches or methods if you want. I can say I went to a couple of NO-NOs until I found my current facilitator and I don’t want to leave for now. You will see, when the student is ready, the master appears – this is a true saying in constellations as well. Sometimes it takes a bit until you reach the place where you can work correctly for your soul.
Start small, if you can find a smaller group to work with. Don’t go towards groups that are bigger than 20-25 people, you will have less opportunities to extract and play your theme, also the energies might be overwhelming if you are starting out now. I genuinely advise not to go for bigger groups unless your energy is cleaner, more stable and you are grounded in your life. I’ve noticed that good facilitator often work more closely and privately, so don’t follow the advertisement, it failed me every time.
Family constellations are probably close to Christian work, and this is not something odd as the creator of the technique was a priest himself.
Stay always grounded, check the energy of the group and see if you receive answers and hints and feelings in the body. Wait for clues after a constellation, a conversation, messages, be aware and be present. Follow also the cycle of the constellation. I am still working, to this day, the themes revealed on April 12th 2025. I see how they unfold, evolve, move with practical changes in my life and the life of my family. See if things change to the better, if not, change the method or facilitator. Don’t waste time you don’t have. And have patience, the energy is working and changes can appear sometimes with a bit of a delay, but they appear.
Try to feel more and think less. Family constellations work with the cuantic field information, that is yes, both mind and matter, but most of all, heart and soul. The family tree souls can only speak their truth if you allow heart to heart connection, that place where judgement and rationals are not prioritised. The work that you will be doing is subtle but extremely strong.
The thing with family constellations is that they will never be like psychotherapy. In traditional therapy, your soul speaks. But in family constellations, your family’s souls speak, and this is more powerful than you can even comprehend. What you work and release in family constellations, you will never ever do with traditional therapy. They will work nevertheless, in combination.
You can bring any theme to a family constellation, from healing to having more money or meeting the love of your life. Don’t limit yourself, just ask guidance for any obstacle you might have. And you’ll see it’s almost all about somebody who was lost or unseen or unloved.
Try to avoid the places where there are no rules for working with the energies or close the field properly. Look for a facilitator that knows and has the power to open the field, hold it correctly and close it with a humble, grateful heart. Search the one who embodies the talk and walks the walk. Who has healed. Who’s not living in the ego and publicity, but in the consciousness of the heart field and has a balanced, grounded life outside the work. You don’t need a facilitator who thinks they are Mesia, you need someone wise and heart-centred who knows that constellations are a gift of God for us and that the voices of the departed are those we need to honour most. And we can do them only if we are humble enough to kneel to the incredible power of our family trees and of God.
No matter the themes you need to work in your life, offer your energy and time to supporting others as well. In time, you will see that you will change your intentions towards being of service more than being served. And this is great, it’s an evolution.
MOST IMPORTANTLY: if you mock or judge this practice, stay away. There are a lot of people who want to work with the soul intelligence and want to heal. I see so many painful stories, limits, wounds, desperation, loss and extreme faith that within our community, answers will be given and souls will be heart. Stay on your lane and do us all (others) a favour. From my experience though, those who reject healing practices like this on the basis that they ar pseudo-science, those are the ones who need healing the most.
Life is not matter, it is magic under the form of matter, both visible and invisible. And just like I say with astrology, family constellations exist because they need to exist as a practice. They are from God and they are magical. And they don’t need you to believe in the efficiency of the technique. They will exist with or without you anyway.

Maybe be greatest gift of all from family constellations after practicing them, is this one: every time you live your truth, you free an ancestor who was forced to hide their’s.

If you want to experience and most of all, work with us, you’re kindly invited to join us at Scoala de Stiinte Spirituale (School of Spiritual Sciences) by Barbara Bacauanu. The full calendar for next sessions (live and online) is here.

Yes, I know, it’s been a very long time almost 2 months. Again, I broke my promise to write every week. But you see…life had other plans for me and I obeyed, sat quietly under her field of disruption and worked my way through the hardships. It’s been…a tough time with lots of meaningful leavings and sorrow, but about that in another, future message. And I know…the title of this healing letter seems extremely far from the realities of the world today. But hear me out!

As I’m writing these lines, I see we’re living in yet another war zone timelapse. The year of the fire horse has almost completely plugged in its energies (March 3rd will be the last day of the transition) and we’ve managed, as a collective to blow out in seconds, 100 little innocent girls in a school in the Middle East. It seems like this is never going to end and many of you reached out these past days to ask me where is the world going. Well…my loves…the dismantling is in the midst of it. But there is a lot of hope as well. It’s not about what’s happening, it’s about what’s being created as a response.

It’s a full on reset. Even though it feels like it’s more like a burn out from both ends.

You are now starting to sense the right to exist and be your unapologetically you. This Saturn & Neptune conjunction in Aries requires us to break all of our old soul contracts. This is why people are leaving our lives, why we are loosing money, relations, health, why we feel energetically depleted, can’t seem to see the road ahead. Old programs and paradigms are being extracted from our destinies. It’s not an easy process, but it’s a necessary one. And it’s going to unfold, no matter our resistances.

Now we’re experiencing: an initiation, a differentiation, an evolution, a rewiring or as we say in astrology, the conjunction of the rebirth.

You’ll learn to stop abandoning yourself and other energies around you will destabilise because they were feeding off of you and they were connected to something you are now releasing. They can’t control you anymore and your growth as a sovereign feminine might be seen as a threat.

We’re still in the space between the branches, because the last parts of the Pisces energy is being released with the Total Lunar eclipse in Pisces and Uranus moving through its last degrees in Taurus. The contrast between what’s ending and what’s beginning is quite stark.

How you experience yourself now is changing and you will no longer seek external validation to direct your journey or regulate your path. It’s a totally new 36 year cycle and it has already started last year. You will not be accessed by others in the same way like before and they will be…my dear…pissed off.

It’s a time to see the new YOU with new eyes. And you will see whatever around you destabilises now that you’ve grown.

The core feminine qualities like empathy, intuition, receptivity, emotional intelligence, connection, understanding, trust are being rewired now, far from their distorted, victim-based frequencies.

What you are guided towards is feminine power of expression.

And as we step into this new energy, men will need to adapt, readjust and rise in the same lane and rhythm. They need to do the same work on themselves, at the same time. The Universe as it is now coded works only on balance, so both energies are meant to reborn at the same time.

The dreams without Godly pursuits are now dissolved. Your right to exist and manifest your Godly nature is now reinforced. In the end, no matter how many religions and spiritual practices there are on Earth, the same truth is stemming from all: we are God’s manifestation and embodiment into this world. He who is both feminine and masculine experiences life through our good and bad deeds into a constant pursuit not for perfection, but for balance.

As a sovereign woman, you will need to step away from the energies that want to dim your light.

Some of my predictions and guidance for the next years starting now:

Cut and prune outdated relations and relational patters. Challenge attachments, victimhood, annihilation of the self and self destruction. You don’t need these anymore. Be honest with yourself and start within yourself. There’s a massive scaling and reset needing your contribution. So do your work consciously.
Stand as yourself in any circumstance, and afirm your inner needs. Not to dim others, but to put your own mission at work with responsibility and clear intentions.
You will be challenged by the external environment during these next years. Sometimes if not many times, brutally criticised or attacked with words, opinions, projections and expectation, etc. It’s your job to see where you end and they begin and what they actually mirror from within your own self. We don’t learn courage in balance, we learn courage in the midst of the world falling apart.
You will need to be in the centre and you will be vulnerable. You will see more clearly where you are still energetically weak, what you are still absorbing from others and where you betray your accurate intuition.
You will not be able to not see the patterns of struggle and lies in others. The truth is that you will not want those within yourself, thus you will not override them in others. Rejection of old structured will mean your life and external cycle will look different.
You will need to own your shadow, you will be responsible for the energies that you bring to a space or place or relation. Unless you want to experience the karma right away, you will work on yourself more applied.
You will need to stop interacting with those who gossip or bad mouth others. One who does it with somebody else will do it with you as well. Whatever you choose, this will be rewarded, so choose well.
You will need to say yes to life experiences and invitations more than you will say maybe.
You will refuse to live below your real potential.
You will no longer carry other people’s drama and narratives. You will see how we will split in two large realities. The people caught up in the inferior drama and realm, and those spiking for greater, brighter horizons. The difference will be felt energetically on all levels of mind, heart, body and yes…consciousness.
You will be asked to step up and put your gifts to work for many years to come in the service of the Planet and her quantum field. No more excuses, NOW it’s time to stand up and most of all give back.
Grow stronger in your will, your manifestation, your choices, your embodiment, your life. Grow! Remain steady within your centre and yes…redefine your center!

The energetic shift is quite strong this time. I don’t care if you believe or not in the quantic field or any of the energetic theories, you will FEEL this.

It’s time you re-integrate all your facets and soul parts within ONE united SELF. And not everybody will be able to travel with you in the next Era, the energies will just be different and entanglements will dissolve completely.

Exist without apology as you are God’s creation and you received the right to exist. Exist as you have full authority over your destiny. And you will be asked to be responsible for yourself now than ever before. Understand and practice this daily and you will be untouchable.

The healed feminine rising into sovereignty has just begun. No longer naive, but spiritually connected and firm. No longer explaining herself, just leading and embodying. Not competing, but lighting the only possible path, that of love.

We are all, women, called to step up the ladder into this brand new next level. Our multi-dimensionality will need to reintegrate into one unbreakable piece.

Month: March 2026

The invisible, necessary work of family constellations