Day: March 9, 2026

As I’m writing these lines, I’ve just ended my participation and contribution to yet another family constellations day event in Bucharest (this time, in the online format). I’ve read about this spiritual and energetic technique many years ago, then the first books of Bert Hellinger (and many other authors on the topic) reached me. Like a lot of you, I was first in front of the TV line for Another Self.

Until one of my astro teachers, Barbara Bacauanu announced me and my astro classmates she was launching family constellations events in Bucharest.

I remember that day with accuracy in mind and heart, April 12th 2025. It feels like it was yesterday. My brother had just experienced a stroke and during the same week, I broke a bone in my left foot. For who knows the energetic medicine and intelligence of the body, I took on some of his burden and filtered his coming back to health through my body also. The left part of the body is linked to the right side of the brain and the emotions we inherit or create, thus being the gateway to the past and most of all, to releasing the past. I arrived with a broken leg to the event, and Barbara gave us the chance to extract a note with or without a number. We were supposed to work on 5 constellations that day. I extracted NO 1! As she told me later, she put the intention for the most urgent constellations to be chosen that day. And our family, me, my brother and a lot of the energies that were surrounding us screamed for attention. I KNEW IT, I felt it in all of my body that I was supposed to be there, broken bone and all, to work on behalf of my family and the pain that was too big and strong not to be heard or seen. And it was seen and it was released. As it should be.

12 months later, I’ve participated to 8 day family constellations events (in real life and online) and worked on behalf of me and my family, but also for my friends, for people I didn’t know and for the bigger field. The energy shift is extremely visible and the people I’ve recommended to join us are saying the same.

Whoever knows me closely, knows that I have little patience with spiritual by-passing mambo jumbo. I have seen too much and I’ve been disappointed many a times. A technique is either good or not for me and I see it very fast. Simplicity is key, don’t wait for ages to see if something is working for you and understand that everything you need and God dwells within you, as you.

A bit about family constellations

Family Constellations (also called systemic or family/systemic constellation therapy) is an experiential, usually group-based method that aims to surface hidden patterns in a person’s family or social system by arranging “representatives” in space and tracking what participants report feeling or sensing in those roles. It emerged in early-1990s Germany through the work of founder Bert Hellinger, drawing on elements of family systems approaches, psychodrama-like enactment, and a distinct “phenomenological” stance that emphasises attending to what unfolds in the room rather than analysing a client’s history in a conventional talk-therapy way. In research literature, Family Constellations is generally dated to early 1990s Germany, with later diffusion into multiple applied domains (family, health, organisations, conflict transformation).

I don’t know if you will ever find accurate research on the efficiency of this method. Because it works with the cuantic field. And because those funding research are not the right people to fund family constellations.

Over time, “constellations” diversified:

• Organisational and structural constellations became popular in coaching and organisational development.
• Transnational spread is documented ethnographically. For example, an ethnographic paper analysing workshops in Beijing and Oaxaca City argues the method functions as both a “technology of the self” and a “technology of the social,” reworking boundaries of self/other and moral narratives in context-specific ways.
• In Mexico, anthropological work details how constellations blend imported therapeutic idioms with local cultural and spiritual frames.

How a session works and the core principles

In its classic workshop format, one participant (“the client”) brings a presenting issue. The facilitator invites group members to act as representatives for family members (or sometimes for abstract elements like “my anxiety,” “the symptom,” or “work”). Representatives are positioned in physical space. The facilitator then tracks the field reports—sensations, emotions, impulses to move—while making minimal interpretive claims in conventional psychological language.

The method is often taught through a small set of “orders” or guiding principles—frequently summarised as:

• Belonging: everyone in the family system has a place; exclusions are said to reverberate.
• Order/hierarchy: attention to generations and roles (e.g., parents before children), sometimes described as restoring dignity to what came first.
• Balance of giving and taking: relational systems are thought to destabilise when reciprocity is severely disrupted.

In many trainings, the hallmark phenomenon is “representative” (or “surrogate”) perception: representatives claim to experience feelings or bodily states that correspond to the person/element they represent, despite not knowing them. Practitioner materials describe this as a tool for accessing system information.

The method is not standardised: “Family Constellations” can mean everything from a highly structured, consent-driven group process run by licensed clinicians to loosely run enactments in the personal-development marketplace. Second, the very features many people find powerful—group intensity, embodiment, symbolic role-play, authoritative ritual—are also the features that create risk when boundaries and aftercare are weak.

Here are my top recommendations for you to follow if you want to heal with family constellations and you are trying to find a good community or facilitator:

1. First of all, set a couple of intentions more clearly. Write down in a journal why you want to open yourself to family constellations. A clear intention is extremely important if not CORE important to finding the right facilitator for you and the right field energy.
2. Research a bit and make a list of facilitators. Try different approaches or methods if you want. I can say I went to a couple of NO-NOs until I found my current facilitator and I don’t want to leave for now. You will see, when the student is ready, the master appears – this is a true saying in constellations as well. Sometimes it takes a bit until you reach the place where you can work correctly for your soul.
3. Start small, if you can find a smaller group to work with. Don’t go towards groups that are bigger than 20-25 people, you will have less opportunities to extract and play your theme, also the energies might be overwhelming if you are starting out now. I genuinely advise not to go for bigger groups unless your energy is cleaner, more stable and you are grounded in your life. I’ve noticed that good facilitator often work more closely and privately, so don’t follow the advertisement, it failed me every time.
   

   Family constellations are probably close to Christian work, and this is not something odd as the creator of the technique was a priest himself.

4. Stay always grounded, check the energy of the group and see if you receive answers and hints and feelings in the body. Wait for clues after a constellation, a conversation, messages, be aware and be present. Follow also the cycle of the constellation. I am still working, to this day, the themes revealed on April 12th 2025. I see how they unfold, evolve, move with practical changes in my life and the life of my family. See if things change to the better, if not, change the method or facilitator. Don’t waste time you don’t have. And have patience, the energy is working and changes can appear sometimes with a bit of a delay, but they appear.
5. Try to feel more and think less. Family constellations work with the cuantic field information, that is yes, both mind and matter, but most of all, heart and soul. The family tree souls can only speak their truth if you allow heart to heart connection, that place where judgement and rationals are not prioritised. The work that you will be doing is subtle but extremely strong.

   

   The thing with family constellations is that they will never be like psychotherapy. In traditional therapy, your soul speaks. But in family constellations, your family’s souls speak, and this is more powerful than you can even comprehend. What you work and release in family constellations, you will never ever do with traditional therapy. They will work nevertheless, in combination.

6. You can bring any theme to a family constellation, from healing to having more money or meeting the love of your life. Don’t limit yourself, just ask guidance for any obstacle you might have. And you’ll see it’s almost all about somebody who was lost or unseen or unloved.
7. Try to avoid the places where there are no rules for working with the energies or close the field properly. Look for a facilitator that knows and has the power to open the field, hold it correctly and close it with a humble, grateful heart. Search the one who embodies the talk and walks the walk. Who has healed. Who’s not living in the ego and publicity, but in the consciousness of the heart field and has a balanced, grounded life outside the work. You don’t need a facilitator who thinks they are Mesia, you need someone wise and heart-centred who knows that constellations are a gift of God for us and that the voices of the departed are those we need to honour most. And we can do them only if we are humble enough to kneel to the incredible power of our family trees and of God.
8. No matter the themes you need to work in your life, offer your energy and time to supporting others as well. In time, you will see that you will change your intentions towards being of service more than being served. And this is great, it’s an evolution.
9. MOST IMPORTANTLY: if you mock or judge this practice, stay away. There are a lot of people who want to work with the soul intelligence and want to heal. I see so many painful stories, limits, wounds, desperation, loss and extreme faith that within our community, answers will be given and souls will be heart. Stay on your lane and do us all (others) a favour. From my experience though, those who reject healing practices like this on the basis that they ar pseudo-science, those are the ones who need healing the most.
   

   Life is not matter, it is magic under the form of matter, both visible and invisible. And just like I say with astrology, family constellations exist because they need to exist as a practice. They are from God and they are magical. And they don’t need you to believe in the efficiency of the technique. They will exist with or without you anyway.

Maybe be greatest gift of all from family constellations after practicing them, is this one: every time you live your truth, you free an ancestor who was forced to hide their’s.

If you want to experience and most of all, work with us, you’re kindly invited to join us at Scoala de Stiinte Spirituale (School of Spiritual Sciences) by Barbara Bacauanu. The full calendar for next sessions (live and online) is here.