Category: Inspiration

Hands. Two. For your feminine one, for your masculine another one.

Two hands have taken you from your mother’s womb.

Two hands have placed you at your mother’s breast.

Hands have touched and comforted you while you were sleeping.

With your hands you learned the world. To play, hug, to caress, to carry, to fight, to make bread, to show love to your cat or dog, to stay away from hot or cold stuff.

In traditional healing techniques and energy work, hands are the start and finish of one’s body energy circuits. In Reiki, the therapist feels with her hands the areas of your body that need healing the most. In Reflexology and Acupuncture, hands hold important points linked to organs or meridians.

When we are single and with no permanent partner for a longer time, what we really long for is not sex, but touch, the hands of a beloved on our skin.

So you see…Hands are so important for what makes us human, happy and healthy.

Nowadays we use hands (and fingers) to work on laptops, scroll on TikTok. Countless hours per day we are using these God given links to the Universal Energy to connect with technology and less and less with…ourselves and among ourselves.

So get back to loving your hands so they will love you too. Hands are a 2 way street of giving and receiving when used for our good. Through our hands, we include the World and the World includes us back.

How can we make our Hands a more active part of our being and receiving of Love?

Caress your child or your fury cat (or your dog), she needs your affection and you need her balanced energy.

Water your flowers and touch them with love.

Hug your partner, your sister, your mother. For at least 20 seconds, right?

Work the land a bit, when connecting to the earth, our hands gently balance our entire energetic footprint to match what it needs: nature’s rhythm.

Make a summer lemonade, squeeze and feel the lemons give out their sunny juice.

Dance with your hands – yes, you can. You can experiment with flamenco, Balinese gestures or even Chinese moves. Or you can play a bit with Mudras, for me it is so much fun to do this as an exercise after a long writing session.

Do some yoga with Adriene and be steady in your hands as they will hold your body.

Summer is here and we’re all into melon and ice-cream. But what about baking an apricot pie for you and your loved ones? Things cooked with love will always taste better.

Write a kind message using pen and paper. The act of writing like this reinforces the strength of your fingers and hands.

Go play with ceramics a bit. This weekend I visited the Museum of Ceramics at Piscu, a wonderfully (and rather new) location outside Bucharest dedicated to the old tradition of pottery and ceramics. They also have short pottery classes, it felt so refreshing to feel the water and the clay giving life to a shape. The Museum has a modern, eco architecture and is extremely quiet. More like a meditation spot full of arts and crafts, this is how I felt it. Piscu is a formerly pottery centre, and its novel museum houses a collection of maps, old photographs and documents, antique tools and machinery, and, above all, lots and lots of pots.

Add your ideas…and do them with love. Let’s re-create this World with more love for all of us in it. 

From my hands to yours is just a temporary space that needs to be filled in with … love and both our intention to meet.

Conflicts can lead to what we need: Connection.

Wars. Bad politics. Stollen elections. Aggressiveness. Toxic workplaces. Wasteful relationships. Betrayal. Chronic diseases. Divorces. Gender inequalities. Money problems. Floods and extreme weather patterns. Misusage of words. Misinformation. Hatred. And so much more. Let’s be honest, this is really how the world looks like right now for all of us.

Yes, there’s good. In us, in our families, workplaces, communities and romantic bonds.

But as an energy practitioner myself, I feel we are at a point in time when the bad has definitely overcome the good. It’s much more powerful and it’s been coagulated under our very noses. I feel we hardly hear each other anymore. Most of us and our inner lights can not be seen anymore. It’s like the bad is the only common thread that connects us now.

We are living in times of the quincunx. This sounds a bit weird, doesn’t it?

In astrology, quincunx (or inconjunct) is a relation between two planets in the natal chart that can’t really connect to each other in a traditional sense. They thus generate an inner conflict that you will always need to reconcile within you, in a clever, innovative, creative way. They have nothing in common, like two irreconcilable notions, energies, but they have to exist within the same person at the same time. They are like moving forward in the same direction but on different lifelines. It’s like being able to hold two incompatible truths as true at the same time. The challenge is in finding how these two planets can work together when their energies are completely different.

Integrating and finding a way to live with the different energies is hard and requires constant practice and understanding of the self. Most of the time, such a conflict requires innovation and creativity in the approach. The best way to do this is to learn more about these 2 parts and to let them exist while you create a new neuronal path to connect them for the better.

Because, yes, any conflict leads to….connection.

The subject of this week’s newsletter came to me after experiencing +1 week of aggressive behaviour around me, in my projects, free time, etc. For the past days, starting Monday 10th of June, people felt even more crazy than ever. Misunderstandings, triggers, overly emotional reactions. In my own life, I had to deliver an important communication project that ended up in me quitting halfway through just to save my health. More, I had to witness the incredible episode of Coldplay concerts in Bucharest creating tension, hatred, disconnect in our own society. It’s been micro-bad and macro-bad.

And those wore the moments in which this seed of thought came to me as I was delving more into my astrology studies: how can we hear each other when we all right and wrong at the same time?

Well…we create a new path for our quincunx! A process I can recommend right now for all of you dealing with quincunxes in your world.

1.Settle in your own being. Gather the facts of a situation, but also feel the feels. According to psychotherapists, emotions point towards a need that’s not seen or met. Create the story for yourself, write it down, think of it or even tell it to your therapist (in whichever form he/she may come).

2.Disconnect a bit from the actual conflict, but mostly emotionally. Do something that nourishes your life, your body, your mind and soul. Stay with friends, cherish your family or companion animals. We need to heal ourselves first before we tackle any adversity. From that place of stillness and calm, we can make space to hear the other person’s story, no matter how different it is.

3.Accept that acceptance 🙂 is key to solving any conflict. It happened, it’s bad, it’s real. Now…what do we do with the current situation is really up to us.

4.Reach out to the other side and see whether they are willing (and mostly, emotionally able) to re-connect and share their version of the experience. You can actually meet in person or have this conversation over the phone. I strongly recommend you to talk, not write. Give your time and attention intentionally to the conversation. Most of the times, a conversation is all you need to settle the conflict. Most of the times, people just need to be heard and seen for their own imperfect self.

If the situation is for the time being too hard to reconcile, let it be. Work on yourself. Find grace in whatever happened. Turn to God and handle it to Him. Accept that you are living in the aftermath only, not in the experience itself. Try not to relive it. Try to forgive it.

This might be a way to mould our lives into better lives. Our families into better families. Our communities into better communities. Our world into a desirable world. Find your original way to build, connect, liaison rather than separate, disconnect, harm.

If you need my support, I am here. I have also a lot of quincunxes in my own chart and life, so…I do what I preach (and write about). Write a short message at hello@roxanamarin.life or a whatsapp: +40745 020 957.